An update of my journey on this subject

In order to remove or soften the high frequencies first I tried mixanalog.com and bounced a test through 2 tape machines (Studer A812 Mk.1, Telefunken M15)
Both were successful to certain extent in reducing the high frequencies and soften them, the Telefunken which have slower speed did it more then the Struder, they sounded beautiful but had a specific sound which I will probably won't want all the time.
I don't have a fast enough internet at the moment to use their website and create proper examples to upload for you to hear, sorry..
Then I went into a rabbit hole for a few days of listening to Chris from Airwindows and trying his plugins to reduce high frequencies like Slew and Acceleration.. Amazing indeed but it wasn't what I was looking for.. (I also tried many other de-harsh style plugins..)
And then.. I'm a bit embarrassed so say, after lots of experiments, I think that the thing I was impressed about in this studio's analog filter wasn't the filter at all... just that he was working in higher Samplerates...

Of course I don't know how to explain it but the resampling solved it...
So in my processing I was producing unpleasant sounds in the high frequencies, that he's processing wasn't creating in the first place.. and then when their already there I am trying to reduce them afterwards which doesn't work..
Now I did this experiment, (I know there are many variables or things that could effect this result but still.. I think it's close to what i'm looking for)
1. I took a track at 44khz 32bit float and converted it using Voxengo r8brain to 88khz.
now
File A: 44khz
File B: 88khz
3. In a Cubase session with project setting at 44khz I imported File A, and applied a High Pass with Cubase's eq at 250hz.
And then exported with the same settings, 44khz 32 bit float.
4. In a Cubase session with project setting at 88khz I imported File B, and applied the same High Pass.
And then exported with the same settings, 88khz 32 bit float.
Then I took file B 88khz and converted it back to 44khz using r8brain.
Now:
File A: 44khz
File B: 44khz (went through double conversion and subjectively sounds better)
5. New Cubase session at 44khz and imported 2 files, flip phase, and I believeee this is the harshness I hear.
This leads to a question:
Can you please recommend an affordable eq (I mostly need high and low pass filter) which have oversampling as I need to finish lots of 44khz sessions?
Thank you very much!
